I've been wanting to impress this girl at our school but she is in a bit higher league then I am technically saying she's a bit more popular. But I do not know how. I've only seen her in my painting class and she is a lot better then I am. I'd really to call someone mine but I don't know how to start. Any advice?
My word may not mean much; being an asexual person who's never sought romance, but I don't like the idea of 'making a move on someone' right from the start.
How do you even know you like this girl if you haven't spoken to her directly? I hope you aren't shallow enough to judge by appearance only. You need to befriend her first before even thinking about romance.
Then again, maybe I'm biased. I don't even know what romantic attraction feels like.
No I hang out with her but not enough to hangout during lunch and stuff but my good friend is her best friend and there both very much alike and it's fun hanging out with them. I'm just saying we don't really hang around because I'm shy. I don't care much if the girl is pretty its by how much fun we would have and get along well
Er... I'm not very sure. I haven't had a crush since I was REALLY really young... x3
But like what Midnight said, I'm for sure you have to befriend her before thinking about romance.
Eeeehh...
EDIT: Just saw the reply... Ah...
Hey, I'm rather shy myself too. Though, I don't plan to find someone until I'm older or something. I dunno... :s
Quote from: Jenzy on 2013 Jan 08, 00:46:02
Er... I'm not very sure. I haven't had a crush since I was REALLY really young... x3
But like what Midnight said, I'm for sure you have to befriend her before thinking about romance.
Eeeehh...
well I guess I do need to hang out more but the number one thing that I think it would not work out would be I'm short and she's tall but then again all my friends are tall
Quote from: hyper drive [HD] on 2013 Jan 08, 00:49:50
well I guess I do need to hang out more but the number one thing that I think it would not work out would be I'm short and she's tall but then again all my friends are tall
I know that feel... I feel pretty short for my age.
Well, I'm not the 'lovey dovey' kind of guy. I wonder what will happen when I find a love...
It'll probably differ a bit compared to Jenzy and Blaze Drifter.
Quote from: Jenzy on 2013 Jan 08, 00:53:15
Quote from: hyper drive [HD] on 2013 Jan 08, 00:49:50
well I guess I do need to hang out more but the number one thing that I think it would not work out would be I'm short and she's tall but then again all my friends are tall
I know that feel... I feel pretty short for my age.
Well, I'm not the 'lovey dovey' kind of guy. I wonder what will happen when I find a love...
It'll probably differ a bit compared to Jenzy and Blaze Drifter.
im more I guess lovey dovey but not so much
Quote from: hyper drive [HD] on 2013 Jan 08, 00:49:50
the number one thing that I think it would not work out would be I'm short and she's tall but then again all my friends are tall
If this would honestly mean a thing to her she's not worth dating. Just saying.
Quote from: My friendsSuck it up and tell her.
I'm still not brave enough to tell her but... I'm getting there.
My advice, don't have a wait and see attitude, it gets you nowhere.
I'll be 'forever alone' for a while...
For me, it's odd. I can't tell whether I love someone or not.
I probably do and not know it because of how I am... x3
I am still kinda curious about my old girl. We didn't really break up or anything. I was YOUNG and I dunno what happened. :\
I guess all i can add to this is
1. Be confident. Whether you're gonna simply go and ask her, or go the friendly route, BE CONFIDENT in everything you do. This is a good idea for life in general, but especially for dating type situations. Any decision you make needs to be definite and confident. Don't focus on your "flaws." Be proud of yourself, and who you are. Trust me. It sounds silly and over-said, but confidence REALLY makes a difference in how others perceive you.
2. The whole "make a move first" approach is generally a bad idea. If you're just dating around for the sake of dating around, it's acceptable, but frankly, in the world of love, it's always better to be friends first. You don't have to be BFFs for a decade or so, but at least friendly enough to know a bit about each other.
3. Be yourself. I know it sounds cliche, but this is important. DON'T try to act like someone you're not. If she's worth dating, she won't judge you based on your personality and quirks (as long as you're not a total jerk, which i assume you're not). If you have to pretend to be something you're not to be with a girl, she's not worth being with.
At the end of the day, if i had to make a suggestion, get conversation started with her. It doesn't have to be about dating or about anything of the sort. Just talk. Find out things you have in common. You'll learn stuff about her, she'll learn stuff about you, and it will start the sort of connection that you need to possibly build a relationship.
Try not to push things onto her, it might annoy her.
And if you do get in a relationship with her, try not to talk about future-relationship stuff... in my experience, that hurt all kinds of things.
GuitarBrony has the best advice, though.
Quote from: GuitarBrony on 2013 Jan 08, 01:33:42
I guess all i can add to this is
1. Be confident. Whether you're gonna simply go and ask her, or go the friendly route, BE CONFIDENT in everything you do. This is a good idea for life in general, but especially for dating type situations. Any decision you make needs to be definite and confident. Don't focus on your "flaws." Be proud of yourself, and who you are. Trust me. It sounds silly and over-said, but confidence REALLY makes a difference in how others perceive you.
2. The whole "make a move first" approach is generally a bad idea. If you're just dating around for the sake of dating around, it's acceptable, but frankly, in the world of love, it's always better to be friends first. You don't have to be BFFs for a decade or so, but at least friendly enough to know a bit about each other.
3. Be yourself. I know it sounds cliche, but this is important. DON'T try to act like someone you're not. If she's worth dating, she won't judge you based on your personality and quirks (as long as you're not a total jerk, which i assume you're not). If you have to pretend to be something you're not to be with a girl, she's not worth being with.
At the end of the day, if i had to make a suggestion, get conversation started with her. It doesn't have to be about dating or about anything of the sort. Just talk. Find out things you have in common. You'll learn stuff about her, she'll learn stuff about you, and it will start the sort of connection that you need to possibly build a relationship.
^girls like this.
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Quote from: GuitarBrony on 2013 Jan 08, 01:33:42
I guess all i can add to this is
At the end of the day, if i had to make a suggestion, get conversation started with her. It doesn't have to be about dating or about anything of the sort. Just talk. Find out things you have in common. You'll learn stuff about her, she'll learn stuff about you, and it will start the sort of connection that you need to possibly build a relationship.
Dude~! You have a class together, I've never had a class with a love interest...so take advantage of the opportunity. :D And moreover, it's a PAINTING class, sounds fun and laid back, a great place to make conversation. You said she is much better than you, maybe give her a compliment or two on her painting, ask her for help? Conversation is the best way to start. ^-^
From my experience, you're more likely to get into a dating relationship with someone you've been friends with for a while. Some very successful relationships bloom from friendship, after all.
HAY I know some tips that would actually get you the girl. but they are usually thought of as controversial.
Being Kake n' all I can give you some great tips, people on a minecraft server called me the love doctor.... okay only I called me that.... But aside from that some tips from good ol' Kake.
1. See if she likes you back, you have higher chances of getting her if so.
2. Joke with her, maybe while your giggling and laughing it may slip out.
3. Say it in a note, it's easier to write it and give it to them than saying it outloud.
4. Give up all hope
just kidding about 4 lol
Quote from: Lord of Madness on 2013 Jan 08, 07:21:36
HAY I know some tips that would actually get you the girl. but they are usually thought of as controversial.
You got me interested now. :]
I'd offer my help too!... But I've no experience in this area as of now. Never met a girl I've actually liked before... So no girlfriends or kisses yet. And I'm the kind of guy that wants a relationship, someone to love, you know? I'm not the guy to be with some random girl just because she looks good. It's just not my thing.
I'm actually making a note of these tips myself for when I actually meet a girl I like. X3
Don't force the friendship/relationship. It'll make you look like you're trying too hard, and could kill your possible chances.
Bring up a conversation naturally. Find some common ground with her.
The best way to push away your fear of the female is to stop thinking of her as a female - but as a person. This is very important, and can determine if you will actually stay friends with her, since most guys that skip this over tend to be after their bodies and not their person.
Another thing is that relationships don't happen overnight. It's completely possible to fall in love without a single date. Don't think you'll be paired with her right away unless you're shooting for a one-night stand.
By the way, the "Be Yourself" nonsense doesn't work. At least at first. You want to really catch her interest before letting yourself out.
What do you offer? Are you smart? Funny? Interesting? Talented? Ambitious? Creative? OK, now what do you do to demonstrate those attributes to the world? Don't say that you're a nice guy -- that's the bare minimum. Pretty girls have guys being nice to them 36 times a day.
In other words, make yourself interesting for her.
I actually have much more to say on the matter, but I'm short of time. My apologies.
*Claps* Congratulations, you brought Lary out of the shadows! :3 Wonderful advice, by the way, Lary.
my only advice is from Micheal J Caboose, best line to ask the girl for a date
"I think you are pretty, and you haven't hurt my body in a long time, so I thought maybe you would go with me, and we could hold hands, and when you went with me, you would be my real girlfriend. "
but really if you can make her laugh, your already part of the way there
if/when you do ask her try to do it in a private setting so there is not a bunch of peer pressure from others around
and then ill repeat what everyone else says blah blah blah
good luck I hope all goes well
Yeah, don't have her in a corner figuratively or literally. :c
Quote from: Chishio Kunrin on 2013 Jan 08, 09:43:23
Yeah, don't have her in a corner figuratively or literally. :c
Yeah, Stockholm Syndrome isn't the best foundation of a relationship either... except if you are a rich beast.
Do you and her have anything in common? Always ask this to yourself first before trying anything. If you do, make a friendly joke or comment about something school/art related when your around the girl, if you make her laugh or comment back in friendly manner, try starting a conversation, and if that works, your on a good path.
(I feel like this has already been mentioned in many of the posts here)
what ive always thought on making a relationship would be saying a cheesy pick up line then just go sorry i thought i had to meet you because you are so cute. somin like that
I think the most important thing is to be yourself, I also don't think any pickup lines are a good idea. I believe the best thing to do is to try and become friends if you two are compatible you will usually hit it off well in long conversations. Then you can just keep being friends and see if a stronger bond develops from there.
Quote from: Lary on 2013 Jan 08, 08:08:12
By the way, the "Be Yourself" nonsense doesn't work. At least at first. You want to really catch her interest before letting yourself out.
Bullspit.
Putting on a false bravado just to get her to like you is inherently wrong.
If she doesn't like you when you're being yourself, then she doesn't like you. Period. It's pointless to try and win the affection of someone who doesn't like who you really are.
Why make her fall in love with someone you're just pretending to be? That's nothing less than outright deception.
Also, I hate the way people try to chase after partners that are exceptionally 'pretty' or 'popular' and brag about having such a partner. As if people are some kind of prize to be proud of 'owning'. So many people throw around the word 'love' when they don't even have a clue what the word really means.
Ugh. Sorry about the rant. That's just something that irks me.
Quote from: Lary on 2013 Jan 08, 08:08:12
Don't force the friendship/relationship. It'll make you look like you're trying too hard, and could kill your possible chances.
Bring up a conversation naturally. Find some common ground with her.
The best way to push away your fear of the female is to stop thinking of her as a female - but as a person. This is very important, and can determine if you will actually stay friends with her, since most guys that skip this over tend to be after their bodies and not their person.
Another thing is that relationships don't happen overnight. It's completely possible to fall in love without a single date. Don't think you'll be paired with her right away unless you're shooting for a one-night stand.
By the way, the "Be Yourself" nonsense doesn't work. At least at first. You want to really catch her interest before letting yourself out.
What do you offer? Are you smart? Funny? Interesting? Talented? Ambitious? Creative? OK, now what do you do to demonstrate those attributes to the world? Don't say that you're a nice guy -- that's the bare minimum. Pretty girls have guys being nice to them 36 times a day.
In other words, make yourself interesting for her.
I actually have much more to say on the matter, but I'm short of time. My apologies.
i guess id be creative since i am an artist and im starting to get into free running.
Well I'm not exactly the person to ask since my dream is to be a single person with a ferocious watch dog but just be nice to her and try to be her friend. If you know her phone number, call her and ask her if she wants to do something with you. It doesn't have to be dinner but it can be anything else. That's all I got :P sorry. Wish I could help more. And I'm the girl who loves a good romance story.
Quote from: ShadowHeart on 2013 Jan 18, 13:46:20
Well I'm not exactly the person to ask since my dream is to be a single person with a ferocious watch dog but just be nice to her and try to be her friend. If you know her phone number, call her and ask her if she wants to do something with you. It doesn't have to be dinner but it can be anything else. That's all I got :P sorry. Wish I could help more. And I'm the girl who loves a good romance story.
anything will help thanks
np and number one thing you should not do. DO NOT stalk her on the internet, text her like crazy, ask her out through facebook/twitter/ any other social network
My generation has been taught that guys who do it just don't have the guts to talk to you about it.
well being a 13 year old who knows nothing about love my tips are small.
for one dont just ask the girl out, it's too fast.
two valentines is coming up so i guess give her a valentine
three try to be as nice as you can around her, but not to nice that she thinks you are uh, i dont know something
four compliment her, don't do fake compliments though, so if you don't like her shirt dont say "i like yur shirt" just compliment her whenever you can and feel like it.
five make a poem for her, okay maybe not but that would be good for a valentine ;)
six stand up for her, if she is getting bullied or something than tell the guy/girl to back off on her
that's all i got
I've experience with guys and girls, and the most important thing you got to do, is to find her weak point, that works with guys and girls as well. The weak point may vary, but there's always something others are looking for and likes a lot. It goes from a simple flower or word to a extremely complicated affect proof. There's always a way to know that, but the right way to get it, is with time and pacience. You gotta befriend that person, but knowing your limit in some ways, learning everything, catching every single detail. But there's algo a very important point, and it's the transparence, you gotta be who you really are in front of that person, because being yourself, you'll be able to get the right person for you, that's the way love works! <3
I don't know much about love in general, but I'll tell you some things that have certainly helped me.... Sorta, kinda, maybe... :s I'm still working at it....
ANYWAYS!
1. Be yourself! Don't be afraid of that, it's what makes you you! ^-^
2. Show only a little interest at a time. Not all at once or you'll seem desperate. Especially if you can talk to her, it's all too easy to show too much heart in one little conversation.
3. Tell her you like something she's wearing. It's a classic move.
4. If you ever go to a dance that she goes to, or something along those lines, hang out with her or ask her to dance.
5. Don't glance at her in class or gaze at her longingly as she paints. It's just flat creepy.
Of course, if you find you don't like her as much as you thought, then keep your eye open. Maybe there's someone who shows interest in you that you've never noticed before. The world's a big place. But, of course, if she's the one you want, by all means ignore this last section. Good luck, I hope you have success in your goal. ^-^